flaviia asked: I'm so sorry to hear about little Atticus. Losing a dog is one of the most awful things ever and I hope you're doing ok. At least my Billy has a little mate to play with now in heaven :')
Thanks Flavia. I’m gutted. My house feels bigger and lonelier now. My cat Chloe is just wandering around miaowing. I have a 2000lb weight on my chest where my dog should be.
I hope Atty and Billy are up to no good, tails wagging furiously; it’s probably a bad day to be a stuffed toy in heaven!
Blogger Jessica Shyba and her family adopted an adorable 7-week-old mutt. They named him Theo. On his third day as part of their family, Theo joined Jessica and her toddler son Beau for afternoon snuggle time. Beau fell asleep and then so did Theo.The next day, he joined in the naptime ritual again. “And so began,” Shyba says, “the most organic and beautiful friendship I have ever witnessed.” Since then, every day Theo waits for Beau to fall asleep and then joins him for his two-hour snooze.
It may be hard to strategize against the power cliques if they are sitting opposite you with a polystyrene cup of coffee. I understand the power of having a senior male in on a discussion of roadblocks to the top but perhaps the support group is not the place. And as for the need for corporate males to provide each other support and encouragement for career pushes and pay rises, well, the cynics would say men have it and it’s called the golf course. Perhaps it’s preferable that the senior men who are setting up the groups then step back and be open to the graduates who emerge and the solutions they advocate.
Bzzzt! No! Wrong!
Advocacy is the single worst decision process in organisations, despite being the most common.
Advocacy requires packaging and selling decisions to a higher authority. The decision is typically suboptimal because you package what you think you can sell, not what you think is best.
The gold standard in decision science is a facilitated “decision dialogue” process, where those that make the decision sit at the very same table as those who would formally been advocates. Here, the set of alternatives that might previously have been considered unsalable are allowed to enter the dialogue.
Organisations that implement a decision dialogue process make better decisions, and as a consequence tend to realise superior outcomes.
It is not at all preferable that senior men set up the groups and then step back. Their participation in the dialogue is essential.